Professional wrestler Ric Flair once said, "To be the man, you have to
the man." Who is the man? Every man has a different answer. If a
star makes the game winning shot or throw, he is called "Da Man," by
and teammates alike.
Presently, I am in a Saturday morning
study over what is authentic
manhood. While I can't tell what it is yet, I do
know generally that a man
is to have four faces.
First, a man has to
have the King face. Essentially this is the face of a
man that does what he
says and says what he does. If you say it, do it. If
you owe someone money,
pay them back. I can't personally yet show this face
because I owe so many
people so much. This includes my mom to my college
roommate who says I owe
250 cases of Dr. Pepper.
Second face is that of the Warrior. This is
more than the Sunday football
face. This is the face we should wear when
faced with any challenge be it
losing weight to climbing the mountain
literally or figuratively. We the
need to be like the warrior in battle that
doesn't stop until the battle is
Third face is that of the
lover. If you are married, your wife is part of
your flesh. I'm horrible
here. I need to be a better husband. I'm trying to
work on this. So this is
how it is:
Married men are to be like Christ and sacrifice themselves for
Read anything in Solomon's Song to see what I'm talking about.
and 2 Corinthians as well. Married men are to be faithful and
Finally, the last face is that of a friend.
Humans in general need bonding.
Men more than women I think, but we won't
admit to it. My involvement in
this class is to bond with my brothers in
Christ and learn to be more of a
In this day and age, women are taught and expected to rule the
roost. They are to be above men in all things. This is not
accurate. Before I'm attack with a burning bra or whatever,
please read not
what I have to say, but about what God said in His Word.
As Christians, we are to live for God. The Holy Spirit dwells within
The husband/wife dynamic is one that should not be considered lightly.
is very clear on how the relationship is supposed to work.
21 submitting to one another in the fear of
Christ. 22 Wives, submit to
your own husbands as to the Lord, 23 for the
husband is head of the wife as
also Christ is head of the church. He is the
Savior of the body. 24 Now as
the church submits to Christ, so wives should
submit to their husbands in
everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as
also Christ loved the
church and gave Himself for her, 26 to make her holy,
cleansing her in the
washing of water by the word. 27 He did this to present
the church to
Himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing,
and blameless. 28 In the same way, husbands should love their wives
their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one
hates his own flesh, but provides and cares for it, just as Christ does
the church, 30 since we are members of His body. 31 For this reason a
man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the
will become one flesh.
The preceding is just one of my
favorites to read when thinking on the
relationship I need to have with my
wife more. She deserves it.